Becoming Pleasured

A space for exploring personal growth, desire, and the path to authenticity through the body.

Becoming Pleasured is my personal exploration of pleasure, intimacy, relationships, and becoming. I’ll share the experiences that have shaped me, the lessons I’ve learned along the way, and the questions I’m still exploring as I build a life rooted in desire, connection, and authenticity.

Can feminine softness also be strong?
Delaney Matthews Delaney Matthews

Can feminine softness also be strong?

Could I fully express my femininity and still be met with respect, authority, and recognition in environments that tend to value more traditionally “strong” expressions of leadership and identity. In my experience inside hustle culture and the corporate tech world, softness was not something that felt safe to lead with.

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Why are we still faking orgasms?
Delaney Matthews Delaney Matthews

Why are we still faking orgasms?

Many women have learned to prioritize their partner's experience over their own, both in relationships and in bed. In this post, I explore how people-pleasing can disconnect us from authentic pleasure and share a simple practice for reconnecting with our bodies.

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How I decode my body’s yes’s and no’s
Delaney Matthews Delaney Matthews

How I decode my body’s yes’s and no’s

I canceled the date, even though nothing was wrong on paper. A few days before our third date, I felt something in my body starting to close. The sense that I would have to push myself to show up.

Learning to recognize that feeling didn’t start with dating. It started in my pleasure practice. Slowing down enough to ask for my own consent, and actually listen to the response.

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