What Is a Lifegasm?
The Power of Celebrating Life’s Peak Moments
Yesterday, I had what I’m calling a lifegasm.
I made the word up, but I think the experience is very real.
A lifegasm is a peak experience moment in life. A moment you’ve been building toward for years. A crest where you realize you’ve reached a summit. A milestone where everything in you wants to pause and say: Wow. I’m here.
There may be more peaks ahead. More dreams to pursue. More exciting experiences to build toward.
But I think we often miss something important when we immediately start looking toward the next thing:
We don’t always let ourselves fully experience the moment we’ve arrived at.
My lifegasm moment was launching my course on women’s pleasure.
And this particular milestone means so much to me because it represents much more than launching a course.
It represents the culmination of a deeply personal journey with my body, sexuality, pleasure, and self-trust.
From feeling broken to understanding my body
Even three years ago, I was still at a point where I wouldn’t talk about sex with anyone because I felt embarrassed and uncomfortable with the topic.
This might seem surprising because I had confidently taught sensual movement through pole dancing in my early twenties. But there was a huge disconnect between how comfortable I could be with sensuality as a form of movement and how comfortable I actually was with my own intimate life.
My sexual experiences were not sending me into orgasmic bliss.
I felt like my body was broken. Like something wasn’t wired the way it was supposed to be.
I could sometimes reach orgasm with a vibrator, but my experiences were inconsistent. And eventually, this started creating problems in my marriage because I couldn’t articulate what my partner could do to give me pleasure.
The truth was, I had no idea what my body needed to open.
My first orgasm was at age 25. But I didn’t begin a conscious self-pleasure practice to really understand my body’s responses until my early 30s.
That was when I decided to fully commit to changing my relationship with pleasure.
I researched. I worked with a coach to shed shame. I developed a regular solo practice. And slowly, everything began to shift.
I started experiencing multiple orgasms. I discovered new kinds of pleasure, including ear and neck orgasms with a partner. And my experiences continue to evolve and surprise me.
My sexual awakening became a process of peeling back layers of an onion, discovering what was underneath each layer of shame, disconnection, expectation, and uncertainty.
And eventually, I realized something important:
My body wasn't broken. I just hadn't learned how to listen to it yet.
From sexual shame to sharing my story publicly
Now, in my mid-30s, I’m beginning to speak publicly about my sexual journey and share what I’ve learned with other women.
That transformation is a huge part of why launching my course feels like such a significant milestone.
It marks a culmination point in the hero’s journey that has been my sexual awakening.
From inorgasmic to multi-orgasmic.
From too afraid to talk about sex to speaking openly about my sexual experiences with other women.
From feeling like something was wrong with my body to becoming deeply curious about what my body could teach me.
And now, from having a private sexual awakening to creating a space where other women can explore their own pleasure.
Why I created Pleasure Ed
I created my course because I don’t want another woman to feel like something is wrong with her body.
I don’t want women to believe they are uniquely broken because they struggle to experience pleasure, communicate their desires, understand their sexual responses, or feel connected to their bodies.
And I don’t want women to feel like there is nowhere safe to talk about these things.
Pleasure Ed is my way of creating that space.
It combines pleasure education, conscious practice, body awareness, and the unlearning of shame to help women develop a deeper relationship with their own pleasure.
Because I believe pleasure is about much more than orgasm.
It can be a pathway toward greater self-trust, embodiment, confidence, communication, intimacy, and connection with the life you actually want to live.
The next chapter
Launching this course is also a significant pivot point in my life.
I’m not releasing a course and going back to business as usual.
I’m committed to continuing to build this work slowly and intentionally. To refining what I offer. To continuing to learn. To becoming a better leader. And to putting myself out there so I can find the women who need to know that nothing is wrong with them.
There will be more peaks.
More things to build. More dreams to pursue. More mountains to climb.
But right now, I’m practicing something that may be just as important as striving toward the next milestone:
I’m letting myself feel this one.
I’m celebrating the years of work, uncertainty, discovery, shame, healing, practice, courage, and growth that brought me here.
I’m pausing at the summit.
And I’m letting myself have the lifegasm.
Explore Pleasure Ed
If you’re curious about your own pleasure journey, I’d love for you to explore Pleasure Ed, the lessons that brought me to this lifegasm moment.
It’s for women who want to better understand their bodies, move through shame and blocks, build a conscious pleasure practice, and develop a deeper relationship with their sensuality and sexual selves.
