Becoming Pleasured
A space for exploring personal growth, desire, and the path to authenticity through the body.
Becoming Pleasured is my personal exploration of pleasure, intimacy, relationships, and becoming. I’ll share the experiences that have shaped me, the lessons I’ve learned along the way, and the questions I’m still exploring as I build a life rooted in desire, connection, and authenticity.
I Taught Pole Dance for Six Years Before I Owned a Vibrator
I loved working with women to feel more powerful in their bodies and more confident in their expression. I'd watch women walk in timid, with closed body language, and emerge from the class with a wide smile, a bright bubbly energy, and an excitement about their new collection of sensual moves.
One woman was so delighted with what she'd learned and how well it went over when she brought it back to her partner, that she returned to class gifting me with wool leg warmers and hand lotions. I'm not sure those particular items had significance, but I felt the genuine appreciation behind them.
I continued teaching for about six years, including teaching private home bachelorette parties, working on my own through referrals after leaving the studio, getting literally all of my friends, sisters, and brothers, into the sport of pole.
But something was starting to feel uncomfortable for me.