Meet Delaney
I'm the educator I needed at 25.
ABOUT DELANEY · PLEASURE GUIDE
I'm Delaney Matthews, a Certified Women's Sexual Wellness Coach.
I help successful, high-achieving women move from body shame and disconnection to sensual embodiment and self-trust through cultivating a conscious pleasure practice, so she can authentically advocate for her desires and build a life that truly fits her.
I grew up in a home where sex wasn't talked about.
I didn't know women could orgasm until years into my first relationship.
I had my first at 25, alone, with a vibrator. Today I'm multi-orgasmic, and I'll tell anyone who asks how I got here.
I spent my career in big tech marketing before I left to build this.
I taught pole and erotic dance for 6 years.
I'm a Certified Women's Sexual Wellness Coach, and I practice everything I teach.
From the outside, I had it figured out.
The marriage. The big tech job, the city life. If you'd met me then, you'd have assumed I was good at all of it.
Privately, I didn't feel much of anything in my intimate life. And I was pretty sure that was my fault.
I grew up where sex was something you didn't discuss, and women's pleasure didn't come up at all. Nobody told me women could orgasm. I found out years into my first relationship. I had my first at 25, alone, with a vibrator, and I couldn't bring it anywhere near a partner.
So I did what capable women do. I got good at reading my partner’s arousal level.
I faked it. Not once or twice. For years.
I was performing everywhere. I taught pole and erotic dance for 6 years, and I knew how to look sensual, in class and in the bedroom. I didn't know how to feel it. Teaching sensuality while I felt disconnected in my own intimate life made me feel like an imposter.
The turning point
So I left pole and got curious. I started calling myself a sex nerd, reading every book and taking every workshop I could find. I worked with a coach of my own to untangle what I'd been taught. And I committed to a regular practice with my body, even when it felt slow and unfamiliar. Nothing changed overnight. Then things started to open.
Along the way, I stopped trying to figure out what I was supposed to feel and started paying attention to what I actually felt.
Eventually I went from inconsistent orgasms to multi-orgasmic. My body had been giving me information the whole time. I just hadn't learned to listen.
What changed everywhere else
Here's the part nobody warned me about. Once I trusted my body in bed, I couldn't unknow it anywhere else.
I started noticing my polite yes and my full-body yes. I raised my standards. I ended my marriage. I left a successful career in big tech that looked right from the outside and didn't feel right from the inside. I started building a life around what I actually want.
Every one of those choices came from the same place. I finally knew what I wanted, and I trusted myself enough to act on it. That's the kind of power this work gave me. The quiet, steady kind that comes from knowing yourself well enough to choose from your own desire.
Why I do this work
Most women I meet aren't missing a technique. They're missing the education nobody gave them, and the permission to slow down long enough to feel.
You're not broken. You were never taught. That part is learnable, and I'd love to help you learn it.
What I believe
01 You're not broken. You were never taught.
02 Pleasure is a practice, not a performance.
03 Self-knowledge matters more than technique.
04 You don't need to be more "sexy." You need to know yourself.
05 Feeling powerful is different from being desirable.
How I work
I'm not here to tell you what to want. I'm here to help you find out.
My approach pairs research with ritual. You'll learn the science of desire and arousal, including Dr. Emily Nagoski's model of accelerators and brakes, alongside simple practices that use breath, touch, movement, and attention. Then we turn what you learn into a practice you can return to on your own.
In Pleasure Ed, I'm your teacher. In coaching, I'm your partner and guide. Either way, you set the pace and you're the expert on your own body.
If pain, trauma, or anything medical comes up, I'll help you find the right specialist alongside our work.
The training behind the work
Certified Women's Sexual Wellness Coach
Sacred Sexuality and Relationship Tantra, Embodied Awakening Academy
6 years teaching pole and erotic dance
Years of independent study in women's sexuality, grounded in the research of Dr. Emily Nagoski and other leading pleasure educators
A career in big tech marketing, which is where I learned to make complicated ideas simple to understand
When I'm not teaching
I dance in my kitchen. No audience required.
I host dinner parties with women who want to slow down together.
I dress for myself, not for anyone's approval.
I have a whole drawer of pleasure tools, and I have opinions about every one of them.
I celebrate small wins instead of racing to the next goal. Still practicing that one.
If any part of my story sounded like yours
Start free
Lesson one of Pleasure Ed. 20 minutes, no partner required, yours to keep. Free.
Work with me 1:1
Six private sessions over 3 months, every other week, with practices and support in between. $1,500.
Prefer to read first? Come closer on Becoming Pleasured.